By Chiedza Nyamudzanaka

Worried young Afro-American man wearing glasses typing sms on smart phone deep in thoughts without noticing his girlfriend spying, looking over his shoulder, trying to read what he is texting

Love is a feeling and attitude that range from interpersonal affection to pleasure. Its an affection and personal attachment. Everyone has their own definition depending on their love experiences. Some love it, some hate it, but it is true that everyone needs a love story to grow and live happily.

Could it actually be that one person loves and hates another person in the same time. Today he says “l love you” and tomorrow he says “l hate and regret the day l met you”. Could it be that even if a person loves you whole heartedly, he hates her for a couple of minutes? Of course it does!

Think about that person you love more than God, have you ever loved him/her every single minute of your life? Have you never said “l hate you, stay away from me” or ever come back again to that person you love more than God? Of course you did, that’s not weird at all, we are all human beings. When a person loves another person, regardless of what that person means to her/him, there is always the other piece of the heart that loves that person so much and the other part that can easily get frustrated and angry.

Love is not only loving someone, love is not only to be with someone you love, it is much more than that. Love is when you are worried about someone, when you are angry because the person disappointed you, when you don’t even think about words coming out of your mouth because the love, the care, the feelings and everything you have fought for has been hurt for a meanwhile by that person you love. The only thing you can get is a huge, blowing and unstoppable wind which comes so fast and blows over your heart so that nothing can stop it, no one can think at something else but frustration, hate, anger and disappointment. This can only happen when you actually love that person, otherwise you wouldn’t be frustrated or get angry about it.

Relationship between two persons can’t be successful without mixed feeling. You know why? Because that relationship wouldn’t be between two persons, not between humans. We are not created to have only one feeling in our heart, we are created to have mixed feelings. Otherwise we wouldn’t exist hahaha!! To have mixed feeling doesn’t always have to mean something bad, sometimes it can help in understanding of each other’s feelings. A human being is not created to be a robot, not created to be programmed, not to repeat the same thing over and over again without quitting, of course this leads to anger and frustration, but it can not lead to a catastrophe, because if a person truly loves someone else then relationship between them is unbreakable, then there is no problem that can’t be solved for them.

Its not possible for love to work if everything is in peace and joy. Love must be wounded, disappointed, cursed, hated, but still loved.